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H.E.A.L.I.N.G. Framework

The Lightning Path HEALING framework is a framework designed to guide therapists and individuals in the healing process. Based on close to two decades of sociological and psychological research, and years of experience in psychological and relationship trauma counseling, this framework provides seven planks around which to organize the therapeutic process.

As an individual, you can use the LP HEALING framework to help guide your healing journey back towards stronger Connection. As a therapist, you can use the LP HEALING framework to guide discovery and intervention.

Individuals can apply the framework on their own, or seek out therapists they like to help them. The only requirement is that the therapist/individual show progress along the seven planks. As long as the individual is improving their environment, becoming more truthful, dealing with addictions, etc., healing progress is being made.

Note, the LP framework does not specify what healing modality the therapist or client can use, only the important planks upon which healing is accomplished. Therapists can use Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Acceptance Commitment Therapy (A.C.T.), psychoanalysis, or whatever they find works.

Also note, this framework is not linear. That is, you don’t step through it section by section. Your approach will be iterative.  At first you might work on your environment, improving it a little bit, then you’ll work on improving needs satisfaction, then perhaps over to ideology, back to environment, maybe a little therapy help, and so on.  Follow your gut instincts as you decide where to focus you attention.

H.E.A.L.I.N.G.

H = Help

Our illnesses are rooted in a complex system of Toxic Thought and Toxic Socialization. We are sick because of the way we think about ourselves and the toxic experiences we have had in the world. In the complex and distorted context of toxic thought and toxic experience, healing is not a simple thing.

It is, of course, possible to heal yourself. But given the weight of toxic experience and the depth of toxic thought, it is always wise to seek help if you need it. You can seek help either by reading appropriate resources yourself (self-help) or by engaging with competent therapists and other healing professionals.

As regards self-help, the Lightning Path provides a wealth of resources to help correct toxic thought patterns, improve toxic environments, and straighten out perceptions and self-deceptions that contribute to disconnection, dysfunction, and illness. The LP also hosts forums where you can ask questions and get help with the entire process. In addition, their are lots of great resources on the Internet. There’s also some bad resources as well. When in doubt, ask on the forums. Finally, note that the more time you spend, and the more open and honest you are with your Self, the easier and faster it will be.

As for seeking therapeutic assistance, for best effect, services you select should be based on the HEALING framework. Your therapist does not need to be aware of this framework, so long as you guide the therapy. That’s not hard. For example, if you think you need help with your environment, tell your therapist that. Say “I want help reducing the toxicity in my environment.” A competent therapist will be able to help you with that. Similarly, if you want to work on addictions, find a good addictions therapist or center. Always be in control of the process, even when you are getting help.

 

  • LP Healing Forums – additional resources and discussions related to the healing journey
  • LP Healing MAP – An assessment of your life and family situation, along with a guided action plan for making healing changes.

E = Environment

As many medical professionals will tell you, the recipe for healing physical trauma is simple — dress and protect the wound. If you cut your hand with a knife, if you shred your knee in an accident, the first step towards healing is to clean the wound, prevent bacteria from entering, and protect against additional trauma. It is not rocket science. If you don’t clean the wound, if you don’t protect the wound from bacteria, if you poke at the wound with a stick, if you jump into a dirty pool with a bunch of open wounds, your wounds will never heal. It is as simple and straightforward as that.

What goes for physical wounds also goes for psychological and emotional trauma as well. The first step towards healing psychological or emotional healing is to clean the wound. Then, make sure nobody keeps poking at the wound with a stick, Protect the wound from the bacteria of negativity and stay out of toxic environment’s so your wounds can stay clean and heal. It is as simple as that. If you don’t protect yourself from being hurt again, if you don’t have a safe and non-toxic environment, and if you don’t keep your spaces clean and free of emotional/psychological dirt and grime, your psychological and emotional wounds will never heal. Remember this:

Psychological and emotional healing occurs only in safe, clean, non toxic environments.

Unless you live by yourself, establishing this kind of environment can difficult. When you add family, friendships, and other relationships, ensuring safe, clean, non-toxic environments can become a major challenge. In order to help shift your realities, we recommend a commitment to non-violence in your life. Non violence means that no violence is allowed. In a non violent environment, there is no yelling, no name calling, no emotional assault, no physical violence, and no aggression of any kind.  Committing to non violence provides an easy to understand, rock solid foundation upon which to build healthy environments.

Given how emotionally and psychologically violent our modern societies and families can be, achieving non-violence can be a challenge, and can take some time. LP books and resources provide additional guidance on how to improve and achieve Right Environment.

Reading List

Self-assessments

You can assess the level of toxicity in your environment using three LP instruments, all available on the self-assessment page.

A = Addictions

Addictions do have a physical component, substances like tobacco or likely fentanyl and other pharmaceutical opiates, for example where designed to be addictive, and are successful in that regard. But the physically addictive qualities of substances are not the only reasons people get addicted. There are psychological/emotional causes to addiction as well. For example, addictions often arise as a result of attempts to deal with/numb/repress the pain and suffering caused by Toxic Socialization and Toxic Relationship. When we are hurt and abused, the hurt and abuse causes pain. If the hurt and abuse is chronic (it continues daily) or if it is severe, or if it occurred in childhood, the pain can be deep and pervasive. Addictions help distract and numb the pain. If you’re drunk all the time, if you’re on social media all the time, or if you spend all your time shopping in malls, or gambling in bars, you don’t have the time or the awareness to feel the pain. With addictions, you numb and distract so you can avoid feeling the pain.

You can break physical addiction, but unless you commit to healing trauma, unless you change your environment and relationships so these stop delivering you pain, unless you get to the root of the pain and deal with the emotional and psychological issues, there is always a danger than an addiction will return. You may give up smoking only to become addicted to Facebook/Instagram/Twitter. You may give up Facebook only to become addicted to something else.

If you are serious about moving forward and connecting, you must eliminate addiction. In order to eliminate addictions, recognize your addictions and follow them back to their source. Explore, with a therapist if you need, the pain and suffering into which they are rooted. When you have located the sources (toxic parents, violent childhoods, neglect, and other aspects of our Toxic Socialization practices), then, resolve that pain and suffering. Continue to work on your environment to reduce toxicity so you can deal with and resolve, break (or place strict emotional/psychological boundaries around) any relationships that cause you pain and anguish, and process whatever negative emotions remain. It does take work, and it will take time, but it does have to be done.

Note, being addiction free doesn’t necessarily mean giving things up, it just means breaking the addiction. You might be addicted to shopping, for example, but when you break this addiction, you will still shop, you will just be in control. The same thing goes for some of the other addictions people have, like alcohol. As long as you are in control, occasional use is fine. If you can’t gain control however, or if the substance is simply too dangerous (e.g. opioids like Fentanyl), total abstinence may be the only option.

 

 

 

L = Lies

As humans, we are trained to lie. As children, our parents punish us when we speak uncomfortable truths. As adolescents, we watch the “adults” around us constantly construct fantasy presentations, hiding the toxicity in their homes while presenting a pleasant “face” to strangers, coworkers, and friends. Sometimes adolescents rebel against the hypocrisy, but by and large, people all eventually “grow up,” which in this context simply means they’ve learned lie to themselves about the realities in their life.  Adults have learned to “go along to get along.” We grow up and we learn to lie that everything is OK. By the time we are “adults,” our capacity for lying is so well developed that we fool everybody, even ourselves!

Unfortunately, we have some bad news for you. If you want to move forward, if you want to heal, awaken, activate, connect, and express your full human potential, you can’t lie, to yourself, or others. If you want to move forward, you have to face the truth, no matter what that happens to be.  If you were traumatized by toxic parents as a child, you are going to have to face that truth so you can mend and heal. If you are a toxic parent, you are going to have to face that truth so you can heal yourself and help your kids. If you’re an addict, you’re going to have to face that so you can stop distracting and avoiding. If you’re a callous bully, hurting from an extremely toxic childhood, you’re going to have to face that as well. If you want to move forward, then you are going to have to face whatever it is you are hiding from yourself.

Of course, we understand how difficult this can be. The repressed pain and anguish, the white washed guilt and shame, and the profound self delusion, can feel, as they begin to break through the thin surface, like psychological earthquakes and result in emotional tsunamis. If, at any point in the process, you are feeling overwhelmed, slow down, take some deep breathes, remember the HEALING framework, and get help if you need it. If you need to,  face the truth a baby step at a time. Process as slow as you need to and get as much professional help as required. Just don’t stop. If you stop facing the truth, you stop moving forward.

 

 

  • [Insert LP Workbooks]
  • [Insert forum referal]

I = Ideology

Ideology is false belief. Ideology is direct and indirect lie and deception, especially when intended, deliberate, and harmful to you and the ones you love.

Ideology can be extremely difficult to identify and sort out, because our lives are dripping with it. From the moment your parents hit you and then justify it like it is good for you (“what doesn’t kill you…” or “spare the rod…”), you are a victim of ideology, i.e., a victim of a lie intended to deceive, and that causes you harm. The truth is, acting violently towards children damages them severely. The truth is, telling children violence is good for them is a lie. It is told to justify and excuse the bad behavior, and assuage guilt and shame. It blames the victim, causes psychological depression, and encourages passive acceptance.

From your initial exposure and throughout your childhood and adult life, like a web, ideology is constructed, with more or less conscious awareness. Employers seeking to exploit gives their workers ideology. Governments seeking compliance give their citizens ideology. Corporations seeking profit give society ideology. Parents give it out. Priests give it out. Teachers give it out. Marketers give it out, etc., ad nauseum. It is everywhere.

[notes]How to overcome? educate yourself the only way. find out truth. open to truth. awaken to truth. (note at this point start to move into awakening section of LP model).

how to do that? good information. good news sources. drawing on expertise of founds, RSGME, RSGAS. look out other resources. beyond that, look for people with committment to truth. won’t necessarily find these people in NBC, FOX, MSNBC, or other corporate outlets, cause they pushing ideology all their own. The Conversation good place to start since its written by scholars and scientists. note, scholars not immune to ideology (Alpha wolf), but their training makes them a lot more resistance, and much easier to convince.

 

  • [RSGME]
  • [RSGAS]
  • [RSGDISD] student only
  • The Conversation, and similiar outlets.

N=Needs

If you want to develop into a strong and healthy person, and if you want to heal any damage done as a consequence of Toxic Socialization, you need to take care of yourself. Establishing a non-toxic environment (i.e. Right Environment) is part of that, but you also have to make sure your needs are taken care of. You will have a hard time healing and growing if you are hungry, lack shelter,  are desperate for love and belonging, and so on.

Human development and healing depend on the complete satisfaction of all human needs. As noted in this article, human needs are complex and range from the “basic” needs for sustenance and safety to the “middle” needs for truth and understanding, to the “higher” more spiritual needs of self-actualization and even connection/transcendence. Healthy development and efficient healing focus on and meet all our human needs. For a complete rundown of all your human needs, read this article.

If you are a dependent child or adolescent, your needs are supposed to be met by your mother, father, school, and society at large. If you are an adult, you have more control over need satisfaction, but you are still highly dependent on others. For example, you cannot meet your need for self-esteem without a lover or friend who says nice things about you. You cannot meet your need for belonging without a healthy family or group to belong to.

To move past healing and move towards growth and realization of your full human potential, you will need to take steps to meet all your physical, emotional, psychological, and spiritual needs.  Meeting your needs means doing what you can to take care of yourself, and also taking a critical look at your relationships to see which ones are healthy and which ones are not. Healthy relationships involve mutual needs satisfaction. Unhealthy relationships are empty and meaningless, or one-sided and draining (i.e. they take and take from you). To speed your healing and connection process, a) pay attention to your needs and b) eliminate meaningless, unhealthy, and one-sided relationships that waste your time and drain your energy.

Reading List

G = Growth

Life is not a static process. All life is a process of continual expansion and growth. A healthy person is never static, always growing. By default, an organism that is not growing is dying. Therefore,

To meet your full human potential, and to stay healthy, you must commit to an endless cycle of learning and growth, the core of the life process.

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