Summary of all Connection Coach rods

Teacher's Affirmation

The following Teacher's Prayer is taken from chapter one of the Taittiriya Upanishad, LP version. Say it before you sit down to coach/teach others.

May I be filled with wisdom. May I be the bearer of immortality. May my body be healthy and full of life. May my words be kind and sweet. May I be ever observant and attentive.

May fortune bring me prosperity, cloths, food, and a comfortable place to sit. May students seeking sacred knowledge find me. May students come to me prepared, respectful, peaceful, and of tranquil mind.

May I become famous. May I be more famous than even the most wealthy on Earth. May I connect with the wisdom and knowledge of Consciousness. May my mind be purified. May the Truth be revealed to me. May I understand it. May I be a fountain of wisdom and knowledge.

Further Exploration

  1. The Teacher's Prayer is taken from the LP version of the Taittiriya Upanishad. Read it here.

Affirmation with the Student

The following Teacher/Student Affirmation is taken from chapter two of the Taittiriya Upanishad, LP version.

May light from The Fabric protect us both.

May we be aligned and in tune with our Self.

May we work together with vigour.

May our study make us illumined. May our study make us connected.

May there be no dislike between us.

Om. Peace to all beings. Peace to the planet. Peace in the cosmos.

Further Exploration

  1. The Teacher's Prayer is taken from the LP version of the Taittiriya Upanishad. Read it here.

What is a Connection Coach

May I be filled with wisdom. May I be the bearer of immortality. May my body be healthy and full of life. May my words be kind and sweet. May I be ever observant and attentive.

May fortune bring me prosperity, cloths, food, and a comfortable place to sit. May students seeking sacred knowledge find me. May students come to me prepared, respectful, peaceful, and of tranquil mind.

May I become famous. May I be more famous than even the most wealthy on Earth. May I connect with the wisdom and knowledge of Consciousness. May my mind be purified. May the Truth be revealed to me. May I understand it. May I be a fountain of wisdom and knowledge.

Required Readings

What is Connection Coach?

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Further Exploration


[spwiki]Connection Experience[/spwiki] is a real thing. There's lots of anecdotal and scientific evidence to prove this, and just about everybody has at least once when they are growing up. As individuals, there are different ways we can orient and approach the reality of [spwiki]Connection[/spwiki]. We can, for example, be ignorant of it. We can simply not know it is a thing, either because nobody has ever really talked about it to us, or because we've never "discovered" it on our own. Another possibility is that we can know it is a thing, maybe even have an experience of it or two, but for whatever reason (we're busy, we're skeptical, it scares us, we've seen examples of how connection is misused, etc.), we avoid it, deny it, don't practice it, or even suppress our knowledge and experience of it. Finally, we could accept it and, with more or less effort and discipline, pursue and enhancement of [spwiki]Connection[/spwiki]. What follows is a listing of various ways we can orient ourselves to the reality of connection and connection experience. They are basically different ways we face or not face, handle or avoid, accept or reject, this rather common experience of connection. These orientations are organized by increasing awareness of the significance of connection to human health and survival, increasing commitment to both personal and collective connection, and increasing understanding and skill. We start with  "wanderers" who are neither aware of nor committed to connection and we end with avatars who are acutely aware of the importance of connection, have sophisticated knowledge and skill about connection, and have devoted their lives to helping others understand and connect. Note, these "orientations" are more or less reflected in the spiritual literature of this planet. That is, each traditional [spwiki]Connection Framework[/spwiki] has some sense of attainment, understanding, and commitment. Examples from other traditions, like Zen Buddhism, Islam, and Christianity, are provided where appropriate.

The Wanderer

The first orientation to connection is the wanderer. The wanderer is someone who isn’t aware of connection at all, either because nobody has pointed it out to them, or because they haven't discovered it on their own. They are naive about the reality and significance of connection and "wandering about" doing other things. They are not aware of, not focused on, and not practicing, connection.
  • In Zen, a person not interested in connection is labelled the [spwiki]Zaikejin[/spwiki] or staying home person. Why staying home? In Zen, the expectation is that if you are interested in connection, you will go find a monastery to live in and a master to train under. Thus, you've "left home" to go find a temple where you will learn about and practice connection.
  • In the world of Harry Potter, a "muggle."
  • In Islam, an kafir or infidel, someone who rejects the notion of Consciousness and Connection.

The Unsighted

The second orientation is that of the unsighted. An unsighted is a person who is interested in human spirituality, but they haven't had a connection experience, don't remember having one, or have completely suppressed previous experiences. They are blind to the reality of connection and connection experience. Such a one approaches their study of [spwiki]Human Spirituality[/spwiki] from a purely intellectual standpoint.

The Experiencer

Someone who has had one or more [spwiki]Connection Experiences[/spwiki], but who does not, for whatever reason, engage in disciplined [spwiki]Connection Practice[/spwiki] is an experiencer. People who have had experience can be broken down into two sub-categories, those who a) accept the reality of the experience but, for whatever reason, don't bother to investigate further and those who b) who reject and/or deny the reality of the experience.

The Naive Initiate

A naive initiate is an individual who accepts the reality of the experience, and maybe even pursues subsequent experience, but doesn't engage in systematic investigation and study, and therefore doesn't deepen and expand their understanding of connection, connection experience, spiritual ego, and other aspects of connection. There are many reasons why an individual may avoid systematic and disciplined study, including lack of time and resources, distraction, misconception, or mental illness.
  • In Zen [spwiki]Shukkejin[/spwiki] (Left home person)
  • In Islam those who still "love the world." Those who recognize there is something authentic in spirituality, but who remain preoccupied with worldly things.<ref>Ernst.Teachings of Sufism. Boston: Shambhala, 1999. p. 8-9.</ref>


Those who accept the reality of experience but intentionally reject it called ????. In Islam, they are called infidels. Consciousness and deliberate rejection of connection experience, or (worse) consciousness and deliberate corruption, manipulation.

The Needy Novice

The needy novice is someone who has had one or more connection experiences and who has shifted onto what they believe to be an authentic spiritual path. We call them "needy" because they are typically a bundle of unmet (or distorted) psychological, emotional, and intellectual needs. These needs can only be met by authentic instruction, authentic healing, authentic relationships, and authentic efforts to meet all [spwiki]Seven Essential Needs[/spwiki].
  • In Zen [spwiki]Koji[/spwiki] (residence/dwelling man)
  • In Gnosticism, this is the initiate, somebody who has had an authentic connection experience within the

The Practitioner

The practitioner is someone who has resolved psychological issues, healed trauma, and make progress towards the establishment of [spwiki]Right Thought[/spwiki], [spwiki]Right Environment[/spwiki], and [spwiki]Right Action[/spwiki]. A practitioner is someone who actively intends and achieves connection every day, and who works towards achieving strong, pure, and [spwiki]aligned[/spwiki]  [spwiki]Connection[/spwiki]. A practitioner is someone who is focussed, who has put aside extraneous concerns, who avoids or is above the drama, and who has enough energy to spare so that they can engage in disciplined, daily, [spwiki]Connection Practice[/spwiki].  How much daily study/practice? Regular daily reading plus maybe an hour a day in safe, quiet, calm, undisturbed [spwiki]Connection Practice[/spwiki].
  • In Buddhism, [spwiki]Śrāvaka[/spwiki]
  • In Zen Unsai ([spwiki]Battan[/spwiki], [spwiki]Nakatan[/spwiki], [spwiki]Unsai[/spwiki])
  • In Islam, the devotee. One "who knows" and is able to  make periodic connections.

The "Perfectly" Connected

Someone who has attained permanent (or relatively permanent) connection. Or, someone who can handle acute bouts of high [spwiki]CQ[/spwiki]. Someone who understands the critical importance of, and has established consistent, [spwiki]Right Environment[/spwiki], [spwiki]Right Action[/spwiki], and [spwiki]Right Thought[/spwiki]. Someone who has consummated union between [spwiki]Spiritual Ego[/spwiki] and [spwiki]Bodily Ego[/spwiki]
  • In Buddhism, an [spwiki]Arhat[/spwiki]
  • In Zen [spwiki]Inka[/spwiki]
  • In Islam, the Saint

The Teacher/Mentor/Healer

An expert level 5 or higher person who teaches connection and/or helps people healing.
  • In Buddhism, [spwiki]Bodhisattva[/spwiki]
  • In Zen [spwiki]Osho[/spwiki], [spwiki]Shoshigata[/spwiki], [spwiki]Roshi[/spwiki]
  • In Hinduism
    • Advaita Vedanta - Shankaracharya (teacher of the way, specifically head of a monastery)

The Avatar

An individual who devotes almost all their energy to improving humanities understanding and practice of connection.
  • In Buddhism, [spwiki]Tathagata[/spwiki]
  • In Islam, Prophet
  • In Hinduism, Brahman, Avatar
  • In Catholicism, Saviour
  • In Judaism, Messiah

PSST Infections and Sepsis

  1. Chronic long term toxicity (e.g., violence, neglect, chaos, indoctrination, destruction of attachment) leads inevitably to Psycho-Social-Spiritual Trauma and even Psychic Sepsis. The type of infection is determined by the type and length of trauma.
  2. Infections can be identified by irregularities in emotional and psychological response, including “mood dysregulation” (i.e. chronic anger and frustration), defensiveness, low self-esteem, negative ideations, anxiety, paranoia, obsessive compulsive behaviours, depression, PTSD, somatoform manifestations, eating disorders, disruptive, impulse-control, and conduct adaptations, addictions, and so on.
  3. Sepsis includesserious and debilitating emotional and psychological irregularities, including bipolar emotional responses, schizophrenia spectrum, personality disorders, and psychotic disorders.
  4. Triggering is a sign of infection and sepsis. Triggering is when something (an event, a person, a thing, a smell, a sound) “triggers” a negative emotional and behavioural response. Triggering is the sign of unhealed psychic and emotional wounds. If you are triggered easily, it is because your psychic wound(s) are not healed; if your psychic wounds are not healed, you need additional protection and treatment.
  5. It is important to identify your triggers because your triggers lead back to trauma and injury. The LP Healing Map can help you identify and explore triggers, by yourself, or with a client.

Fight, Flight, or Follow: Notes on an "Invisible" Adaptation

Fight, Flight, or Follow

Most people are familiar with the “fight-or-flight” response. This survival response was first described by Walter Bradford Cannon in 1915 (Cannon 1915) The fight-or-flight response is a physiological reaction that occurs in a living body (physical unit) when any form of threat is perceived, real or not. When a physical unit feels threat, the sympathetic nervous system is activated and the body produces a hormone cascade that prepares the body to defend itself by either fighting the threat, or fleeing the vicinity. The choice to fight or flee depends on a largely unconscious assessment of the strength of the threat, and the likelihood of success, should a fight ensue. As biological organisms, humans have this same physiological response to threat. A human confronted with a physical threat will prepare, consciously or unconsciously, and with the help of the autonomic nervous system, to address the physical threat. Important to note, however, that humans respond to more than physical threats. As only a moment of self-reflection will attest, humans feel psychological and emotional pain. Consequently, they recognize and perceive psychological and emotional threat. The fight or flight response will thus be activated when humans feel psychologically or emotionally threatened, or when they are under physical, emotional, or psychological attack. Also important to note, humans (and animals) have a third biological strategy available to mitigate threat and attack, and this is the “follow” or “comply” response. When a human experiences a physical, emotional, or psychological threat, it can fight and lash back, flee and avoid the pain of assault, or follow by findings ways to mollify and otherwise comply with the dictates of the threat. For example, a child in a grade one classroom who is being assaulted by a teacher can neither fight (the teacher is much stronger) nor flee (children are not permitted to leave the classroom). Their only option is to “follow” the dictates of the teacher and find ways to comply with rules as set out. Similarly, a child at home subject to emotional, psychological, or physical “punishment” (read abuse) learns that it cannot fight back (adults are so much stronger than children and parents who choose physical violence can easily make it worse for the child), cannot flee (at least until they reach adolescence and can fend on the streets for themselves), and so must follow along and comply. One does not require intensive psychological or sociological research to demonstrate the existence of the follow component of the Fight-Flight-Follow response. Once again, a bit of basic observation and a modicum of self-reflection will demonstrate this is a ubiquitous, if inexplicably or wilfully invisible, response to psychological, emotional, and physical threat and pain. Hormonal and neurological evidence can likely be found for the existence of this response. What is required at this point from a psychological perspective is deeper consideration of the nature of this response, its impact on the health, well being, and proper development of the physical unit. From a sociological/historical/political perspective, consideration of how this response is exploited by System Agents and agents of toxic socialization1 to ensure compliance with rules, and maintenance of the system. We have a few preliminary thoughts.
  1. The follow response is often exploited by authority figures in institutions to enhance compliance. Psychological shaming and emotional assault are common techniques in schools where toxic teachers use guilt and shame (mostly unconsciously) to trigger the follow response, and enhance the compliance of students.(Sosteric 2013). You often find guilt and shame used in religious cults (Kohl 2010; Miller 2015) social cliques, home spaces, workplace environments, and other institutional settings where it is used, sometimes consciously, by authority figures to enforce compliance.
  2. The follow response is physiological and autonomic, just like the fight or flight response. It is important to recognize this, since “followers” are often pathologized and characterized as spineless and weak. In fact, however, “following” is an adaptive response, and sometimes the only one available, to the chronic and existential threats imposed on humans by the modern capitalist system. Recognizing the biological and adaptive nature of the follow response helps to depathologize what is a prevalent, functional, and adaptive (if easy to manipulate and exploit) aspect of human behaviour. It also puts the focus not on individual failings, but on the economic, political, and social conditions, and intentional toxic socialization practices, which advertently or inadvertently reinforce, trigger, and exploit this response.
  3. In response to the actual success of a particular response, individuals may develop a habituated primary survival response. For example, an emotionally, physically, spiritually, or intellectually strong individuals may come to prefer a “fight” response to protect it from threat.2 Individuals who have been emotionally or psychologically traumatized as children (when we are all weaker than the adults around us) may come to prefer flight or, more likely, follow strategies.
  4. Although an individual may come to prefer a specific response, individual’s will likely avail themselves of all three responses, when deemed as appropriate. Thus, an adolescent who prefers to “follow” the dictates of abusive parent may, outside the home and amongst weaker peers, choose a rebellious fight response.
  5. Unlike the fight or flight response, which leads to immediate discharge of stress through the resolution of the threat, the follow response may be chronically active--for example, in abusive households, workplaces, social networks, or even whole societies where physical, psychological, or emotional intimidation is used. In situations where the “threat” is never satisfactorily resolved, chronic activation of the follow response ensues.
  6. Following” may be an adaptive response when experienced acutely, but it is a stress response. Consequently, it is physically, psychologically, emotionally, and behaviourally toxic when experienced chronically. It should be easy to confirm the neuro-endocrine toxicity of chronic activation of the follow response with modern medical technologies. Psychologically and emotionally, it would be hard to argue that an individual who has learned and habituated a chronic follow-response has the independence, strength of ego, and healthy psychology required to understand and satisfy its own essential needs,(Sosteric and Ratkovic 2018), much less grow into a highly functioning physical unit characterized by systemic/wholistic health.
  7. One can easily hypothesize that institutions and environments that rely on various forms of physical, emotional, or psychological assault to garner compliance will have a higher percentage of “followers,” and also higher levels of emotional, psychological, and physical dysfunction within them.
  8. Military training, which closes off the “fight” and “flight” options during basic training (you can neither fight back nor leave) is specifically designed to trigger and habituate the follow response by engaging in toxic levels of assault.
  9. An individual’s survival responses may become self-defeating and even pathological over time. An individual who experiences constant threat as a child or adolescent may eventually come to feel a constant, diffuse sense of threat. This may leave them in a state of chronic arousal, primed to engage some type of survival response. Thus primed, people may misinterpret cues and engage in maladaptive responses. Their priming may make them easy to “trigger.” Thus triggered, they may, for example, attack and “lash out” (fight) when , hide/avoid social contact (flee), or engage in subservient behaviours (follow). Primed survival responses are one source of an individual's psychopathological ”triggers.”
  10. Survival responses that are habituated and primed, and that trigger maladaptive behavioural responses, may require healing effort.
  11. To correct maladaptive behavioural responses caused by habituated and primed survival responses,
    1. identify the environments (childhood environment, work environment, etc.), people (parents, teachers, etc.), and violent situations that elicited. Habituated, and that now trigger the survival response. If extant environments are toxic (e.g., emotional, psychological, or physical violence, chaos, neglect in the home, workplace, etc.), address and eliminate this violence. In the case of domestic abuse, this might mean couples/family therapy, or even termination of the marriage contract. In schools and other institutions, this may mean pushing for greater awareness of the deleterious impact of toxic cultures on creativity, satisfaction, health, and well being, and working for cultural/corporate change. The paper Toxic Socialization(Sosteric 2016)provides a run down of the deleterious impact of abuse and stress.
    2. Use established and effective therapies (e.g., CBT, etc.) and, where legal, Connection Supplements,3 to enhance awareness, insight, and reprogram defective responses.
  12. Therapeutically, one might ask oneself or one’s client, what their “primary survival response” is. One might also engage in reflection of daily interactions in order to identify the situations where the FFF responses are triggered.
  13. Sociology: Elite actors in government often engage in various activities that stress, even terrorize, populations. For example, tax cuts that target the poor and middle classes, police suppression tactics which terrorize individuals or groups, etc. The corporate media fans the flames of anger and fear, sometimes in absurd and comical ways,4 and sometimes with real and deadly consequences for victims targeted in this fashion. Examples of this under the GOP Gulf war, Iran war, nuclear threats, etc.
  14. Institutions and governments which fan fear, raise threat levels, or engage in actual economic, social, and psychological attack may be deliberately working to trigger habituated survival responses. They do this in order to manipulate their population. Individuals under stress of foreign invasion, military or economic,5 real or imagines, will be more likely to follow an authoritarian leader, fight for the “safety” of their country, or at least stay home and not object to the authoritarian dictates. and use them to perpetrate otherwise indefensible actions (colonial/imperial war, suppression of a revolutionary citizenry) and, when preserve the System, when the System is under duress.
  15. A planetary “ideology” of good versus evil is used to invoke, intensify, and reinforce the FFF response. See “From Zoroaster to Star Wars” and “Star Wars is a Religion that Primes us all for War.”(Sosteric 2018a, 2018b)
  16. Individuals who are heavily traumatized from an extremely violent childhood and adolescence may be more susceptible to authoritarianism (follow response). They may also be more prone to violence (fight-response), especially when their fight-response responses can be aim at specific groups (Jews, Muslims, Infidels, etc.). Authoritarian leaders and the people who “handle” them, manipulate the fight-flight-follow response in order to achieve violent economic and political ends.
  17. Hate groups draw highly traumatized individuals with habituated and primed fight (the Blacks, the Jews, etc.) and follow (the dictator, the saviour, the father, the lord high kahuna, etc.) responses.
  18. To eliminate the ability of bad actors to manipulate the FFF physiology, educate people about the reality of their FFF response and eliminate toxic socialization. In other words, put an end to indoctrination and interpersonal violence, and improve human economic conditions to the point where no individual experiences the threat of poverty, starvation, unemployment, war, violence, etc.


Baumgarten, H. G., and Z. Grozdanovic. 1998. “Role of Serotonin in Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder.” Br J Psychiatry Suppl, no. 35: 13–20. Cannon, Walter Bradford. 1915. Bodily Changes in Pain, Hunger, Fear, and Rage. Appleton-Century-Crofts. “Is It a Myth That Cannabis Can Help Regrow Brain Cells?” n.d. MERRY JANE. Accessed June 17, 2019. Kohl, Laura Johnston. 2010. Jonestown Survivor. iUniverse. Miller, Russell. 2015. Bare-Faced Messiah: The True Story of L. Ron Hubbard. London: Silvertail Books. Sosteric, Mike. 2013. “The Emotional Abuse of Our Children: Teachers, Schools, and the Sanctioned Violence of Our Modern Institutions.” The Socjournal March (October). ———. 2016. “Toxic Socialization.” Socjourn. ———. 2018a. “From Zoroaster to Star Wars, Jesus to Marx: The Science and Technology of Mass Human Behaviour.” 2018. ———. 2018b. “Star Wars Is a Religion That Primes Us for War and Violence.” The Conversation, 2018. Sosteric, Mike, and Gina Ratkovic. 2018. “Seven Essential Needs.” 2018.


1For a definition of Toxic Socialization, see

For a rundown of the deleterious impact, see (Sosteric 2016)

2Personally, my primary survival response was an intellectual fight response. In order to stave off and defend against emotional, psychological, or even physical assault, I engaged in aggressive intellectual fight tactics.

3A Connection Supplement is a dietary supplement (like Cannabis, Psilocybin, Peyote) or substance (like DMT, LSD, Ketamine, MDMA, etc.) that forces and facilitates stronger Connection to Consciousness. Connection Supplements are often referred to as psychedelics or entheogens ("God Containing"). For reasons outlined elsewhere, Connection Supplement is a superior term because it clarifies and demystifies. Note that research is increasingly demonstrating the neurogenic power of various connection supplements. See for example (Baumgarten and Grozdanovic 1998; “Is It a Myth That Cannabis Can Help Regrow Brain Cells?” n.d.). The point? When used with effective therapeutic practice, connection supplements can help reprogram neurological pathways, eliminate dysfunctional responses, and help assert healthy thought and behavioural patterns.

5 The current concern North American concern with Chinese economic invasion (the stealing of patents, etc), comes to mind here as a government invoking fear and threat in order to manipulate and control a population.

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