…no other factor [has] ever been found to correlate so highly with psychological balance as … mystical [connection] experience. Norman Bradburn1

  1. The damage to your physical unit that is caused by Toxic Socialization may be profound and challenging. As a consequence, you may need to seek help.
  2. Some signs you made need to get help include
    1. Feelings of generalized anxiety, especially when accompanied by thoughts that you should be doing something to move yourself forward.
    2. Feelings of being stuck in the same place and making no progress forward.
    3. Ongoing issues with your self-esteem and self-worth. Ego Inflation. Ego Deflation.
    4. Depression, addictions, anger, power tripping, volatile relationships, toxic life spaces.
    5. Behavioural patterns that include avoidance, apathy, anger, defensiveness, compulsivity, and excessive rumination.
  3. Trust your intuition and gut instinct. If you feel you need to get help, don’t be ashamed about it and don’t succumb to people trying to shame you. Simply get the help you need, either with a healer or therapist, or from a competent and qualified professional healer who has written a competent book.
  4. If you do decide you need help, get it; but, be careful and attentive to the type of help you get. Not all help is competent or appropriately qualified to help you on your way.
  5. Qualified help will be help with a specialization in your particular mental, emotional, or connection health issues.
  6. Competent help is help provided by a healer who has made significant healing progress themselves. Healers who purport to be healers but who are stuck in their own pathologies probably don’t know what they are talking about.
  7. Competent healers maintain professional emotional boundaries.
  8. Competent healers do not enable toxic behaviours. Competent healers coach and always encourage Right Thought, Right Action, and Right Environment.
  9. Family and friends are not help. Family and friends are good for love, inclusion, hugs, and companionship, but they are not good sources of help, even if they are therapeutic experts. There are several reasons why you should avoid getting help and seeking guidance from friends and family.
    1. Family are often the root of toxicity and damage. Our first violent experiences are always at the hands of our parents who hit, shame, and otherwise assault us, all in the name of “discipline.” The fact that parents and siblings are the source of violence and toxicity obviates the possibility they might provide assistance, and raises they possibility that they will find ways to assault and slow/halt your progress.
    2. Family and friends know you, know your sensitivities and weak spots, and will use these if they feel threatened by your progress towards healing and connection. Because family and friends know your weaknesses, they can easily do more damage. Be aware of the potential and avoid exposing yourself if necessary.
    3. Conflict of interest often gets in the way of authentic guidance and support. Parents, siblings, and friends may benefit from status-quo pathologies. Parents, siblings, and friends may not feel comfortable with the challenge healing and connection will bring. Efforts you make to change the status quo may feel threatening to established family patterns and traditions and may be resisted as a result. Resistance can slow you down and, when violently imposed, cause more damage.

Required Readings

  1. Lightning Path Workbook One – “H” is for Help


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